All this happened, more or less.

A preference for one object or event over another is usually a function of the relation between the object and the category to which it is assigned. Stated differently, every human judgement, whether a feeling, person, or event, is colored by what the agent chooses as a comparison.
Optimists have a habit of selecting a desirable category; pessimists choose an undesirable one; realists, who see both sides, are usually ambivalent. ibid. p.93
Traditional Chinese lawdistinguishes between stealing from a close relative an sealing from a stranger because the social relationship between one person and another dictations the propriety of a behavior. Western law, which is indifferent to the relation of the criminal to the victim and is concerned only with the decontextualized act of steaing, fails to honor this distinction. ibid. p94